February 2013 – Fathers, Guns, and Violence
by Dr. David M. Berman
There is an old saying that rings true; “He is his father’s son.” This speaks to the influence that a man has on his son in everything. It strikes truer than most may realize. I often tell men that they are leaders no matter what they want. They may reject the fact that they are leaders but the fact that they are changes not. A father will either be a good leader or a bad one, but he will be a leader.
Over the past 50 years there has been a monumental effort to change the social structure of the family in America. The family that consists of a father and mother raising children together under a Christian world view has been decimated in the inner city and in recent years in the whole of the country. The powerful in government, the media, and public education have been on a very specific mission to destroy male authority in the name of “equality.” We are now into a solid three generations (at least) that no longer understands the role of man as husband, father, provider, and protector. The idea of male leadership has been so assaulted that even in most churches feminism is cloaked in spiritual terms, and women rule as “pastors” over men, this being justified in numerous ways with severely twisted hermeneutics. The bible is beyond clear that men lead and women follow in the home and the church. Period! This is not for abuse but rather for provision and protection motivated by God’s love.
The message of no gender differences has created a climate of abuse and neglect. When society constantly tells boys that there is no difference between men and women other than the obvious, why are women surprised that men do not treat them like ladies? Women are constantly complaining about men not wanting to commit to them. You mix this world view with the idea of evolution, relativism (the idea of nothing being absolutely true), and no restraint from the biblical world view, and what would you expect?
Our culture has turned from truth to relativism. A relativist is one who stands on nothing, stands for nothing (except the popular idea of the day), and is motivated by short term thinking influenced by circular reasoning. It is not logic that dictates the relativist; it is corrupt emotion and deception that clouds the real reason for relativism. The reason whether known by the relativist or not is unbridled licentiousness.
Why should any feminist, relativist, or evolutionist reason that a man should have to commit in any way to a woman? “There is no difference between men and women.” Why should men care if they have sex with a woman for recreation and then just walk away? After all they are not taking advantage of a weaker member of the human race simply because the person is female….right? Why should women be jaded in any way by men who do not care? A man and woman are simply biological accidents that evolved from primordial slime that eventually became what we have today. Is not a woman an equal in every way? How is it she was taken advantage of?
You see, no matter how many times we hear the social engineers, the leftists, the feminists, the media, and the government tell us that there is no difference, that facts scream in our ears. There is a dynamic difference between men and woman physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The liberals have managed to use emotions to constantly cloud the facts. They preach an ideology that is unbiblical and simply illogical. Simply put, a man is a man, and a woman is a woman and nothing will change that.
With the terrible Sandy Hook school shooting in Connecticut, there has been a renewed call for gun control. Sociologists, pundits, Hollywood actors, and the usual “experts” have been discussing violence in America. President Obama stood there with children who sent him letters asking him to do something about gun violence. He signed his unconstitutional “executive orders” to deal with violence, and called for a ban on certain guns. One does not have to wonder about the response that pro-life children would get by writing letters against the murder of innocent unborn children to the president; none.
The key to understanding violence in not found in one’s choice of tool used to commit it. The key is not found in the bat used to beat someone to death, not found in the knife use to stab, the bomb used to blow up a federal building, or a gun used to shoot someone. The key to understanding violence is not found in a lack of money for schools, nor is it found in poverty. The key to understanding violence is found in the breakdown of the family and particularly fatherless children.
The statistics are over whelming:
1) 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Source: Fulton Co. Georgia jail populations, Texas Dept. of Corrections 1992)
2) 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept 1988)
3) 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes (Source: Criminal Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26, 1978.)
4) 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (Source: U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census
5) 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes (Source: National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools.)
6) 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
This means fatherless children are:
1) more likely to commit suicide
2) more likely to run away
3) more likely to have behavioral disorders
4) more likely to commit rape
5) more likely to drop out of high school
6) more likely to abuse chemical substances
7) more likely to end up in a state-operated institution
8) 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
The empirical evidence is crushing to the liberal mind set so they simply ignore it. Instead they look to take guns away from private citizens leaving them defenseless from tyranny under the illusion that they care about kids. If they cared about kids they would admit the unmitigated failure of liberalism and social policy that encourages fatherlessness. Fathers are not held in esteem. They are not portrayed by the media as anything but bumbling idiots that need women to lead them, or violent untrustworthy abusers. The court system regularly treats a father as a second class citizen, and gives all the power to the mother when a divorce or separation takes place. Many fathers are left defenseless against a system that makes it impossible for them to fight for their rights unless they are rich. Through this the children learn that the woman is in control, not the man. This erodes his influence and damages the child’s understanding of God’s delegated authority. It is demonic.
Government has been working hard to take over the role of the husband and father. Government has become the provider rather than man. Government has taken the role by every failed program. The inner cities have been run by the most liberal Democrats and the fruit is abysmal failure with lasting consequences. Any attempt to reform is met with anger by the liberal “big government is your daddy” thinking. They care about the kids? Truth is this; no other structure will ever replace the power of the family. The government only plays the role of destroyer when it replaces the responsibility of the man to protect, and provide for his family. The more the government applies itself as father, the more fatherless children there are. And fatherless children equal violence, immaturity, and often poverty. Those are the facts and yet liberals simply do not care because facts threaten their demonic power structure.
Feminism is a failure in that it attempts to fix a problem by its own problem. You do not fix bad authority by rejecting authority all together. You do not say we need no police anywhere because a few abused their authority. That is illogical and absurd thinking.
A new law will not solve violence. Violating the Constitution will not stop violence. Vilifying honest Americans who own and use guns legally will not stop violence. The only thing that will cause less violence in a society that values fathers, and the biblical order of authority in the family. The church must stop helping divorce by not saying anything about it. The church must stop protecting those who take the rights of fathers away. The church must stop the insanity of codling feminism. Pastors must wake up, man up, preach up and stop acting like feckless politicians!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Deuteronomy 6:6-8 “And these words, which I command you this day, shall be in your heart: And you shall teach them diligently unto your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall bind them for a sign upon your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.”
We did not evolve; we do not exist by accident. God made us, and gave us an order for the family. If the biblical family is not once again restored as the central place of value, nurturing, discipline, and provision; if the father is not respected again as the leader, we will turn into a police state. There can be no doubt. Wake up!